Happy Friday buds! I greet you with a fat dab in hand! I have returned after a protracted three month hiatus. It was long for you, even longer for me. A great deal changed in my life the last three months and now I have reached an equilibrium. It's good to finally share with you! My life update leads into today's topic; self care!
What's been going on?
After my last post, I started to make the transition from my first job into my second job. My first job is seasonal and I was doing both at the same time until the first job ended. I was working from 8a to 9p almost every day, with little to no time by myself.
I had received news that the first graduate school I applied to did not accept me. Don't fret! I was accepted into the second graduate school I applied to when I nailed an interview! However, the first rejection shook me... And around that time, I was already emotionally compromised by a bad ending with a boy I was dating, my mother recovering from the hospital, and complicated family dynamics.
All of these stressors served to pull me back into the hole I so desperately worked hard to escape for years. I felt tired, weak, and frankly I was not taking care of myself physically and emotionally.
The importance of self care.
I made the common excuse that I did not have time to do anything but work. But there is always time to take care of yourself, whether it takes one minute or one hour. Whether it's ending a toxic relationship and being single. Whether it's creating boundaries in your family life or cutting them off. Whether it's dropping a class you know you won't succeed in. You are important. Your mental health is important.
What can we do?
Here's a list of things that have worked for me for the last few weeks to get myself back on track. You can incorporate them in your own life or create your own! Check out the the sources below as well!
1. Identify the things that hold you down. I can't stress this one enough. If you have been on my blog since the short beginnings, you have come to know that I emphasize self-awareness. You have to know how much you can smoke, what you can smoke, and when it's responsible to smoke. Self-awareness is applicable to your general life. Identify the things that hold you down and deal with it in the moment as best as you are able. Weigh pros and cons and take appropriate action. The weight off of the shoulders is enlightening.
3. Devote some YOU time. Whether spend an hour in the morning at the gym to doing yoga, one mindful minute doing meditation, a smoke break during the day, a cuddle with your pet, a smoke sesh at night, or a deep breath and a self check-in, there are many ways to have quality time to yourself. Forget the stress and just be in the moment.
4. Devote time to spend with friends and family. As much as it's important to spend time with yourself, it's equally important to spend time with family and friends. Socialization is essential to quality of life. Ask a friend to hang out, do an activity with a sibling, discover a new hobby with your partner, etc. Make time for loved ones.
5. Adopt a pet. If you have the means, I'd recommend adopting a pet. You would be taking on responsibility and accountability by rescuing a furry friend and giving them a full and happy life. Pets can reduce stress and help establish a daily routine.
12. Smoke Cannabis. Enough said.
Michael, R. (2018). What Self-Care Is — and What It Isn’t. Psych Central. Retrieved on May 22, 2019, from https://psychcentral.com/blog/what-self-care-is-and-what-it-isnt-2/
Bard, E. (n.d.). 45 Simple Self-Care Practices for a Healthy Mind, Body, and Soul [Web log post]. Retrieved May 22, 2019, from https://tinybuddha.com/blog/45-simple-self-care-practices-for-a-healthy-mind-body-and-soul/
Davis, T., & Krause, B. (2018, December 28). Self-Care: 12 Ways to Take Better Care of Yourself [Web log post]. Retrieved May 22, 2019, from https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/click-here-happiness/201812/self-care-12-ways-take-better-care-yourself